The transition from pre-school to big school is a significant milestone in a child’s life. For many parents, it’s a moment of pride mixed with a tinge of anxiety. Your little one is stepping into a world that’s larger, more structured, and full of new experiences. The good news is that with a little preparation, you can make this transition smoother for your child. Here are some strategies to help your child adjust during the final weeks of the school holidays.
1. Establish a Routine
One of the biggest changes your child will face is the structured schedule of big school. Start by gradually introducing a routine that mirrors what their school day might look like. Set regular wake-up times, meal times, and bedtime. If possible, try to have lunch at the same time your child will have it at school. This helps them get used to the idea of time management and ensures they aren’t overwhelmed when the school term starts.
2. Visit the School Together
If your child’s new school allows it, visit the school grounds before the term begins. Familiarising your child with the layout of the school, including their classroom, the playground, and even the toilets, can significantly reduce anxiety. I appreciate that as I write this it is the school holidays, but if your children is extremely worried then you might find that you could visit at the end of an inset day before the new year begins. If possible, walk or drive the route you will take to school so it becomes familiar to them. One of the things I would say to the parents I work with is taking the dog for a walk past the school.
3. Practice Independence
Big school often requires children to be more independent than they were at pre-school. Encourage your child to practice tasks like dressing themselves, packing their school bag, and managing their belongings. You can make this fun by turning it into a game or giving them small rewards for completing tasks on their own.
4. Talk About the School Day
Spend some time talking to your child about what their school day will be like. Explain the concept of lessons, playtime, and lunchtime. If you know some of the activities or subjects they will be covering, introduce them at home in a fun and relaxed manner. Reassure them that it’s okay to ask questions and that their teacher will be there to help. I really love these Talking Tokens from Oh Pickle. They are a great way of encouraging children to open up and get them reflecting about their school day!
5. Read Books About Starting School
There are many wonderful children’s books that address the topic of starting school. Reading these together can help your child understand what to expect and feel more positive about the change. Books often present school as an exciting place with new friends and adventures, which can help to frame your child’s thinking in a positive light. Here are a few recommended books - https://www.booksfortopics.com/booklists/topics/pshe-emotional-literacy-citizenship/class-transitions/
6. Encourage Social Skills
If possible, arrange playdates with other children who will be attending the same school. This will give your child the chance to form friendships before school starts, making the first day less daunting. You can also practise simple social interactions at home, such as sharing, taking turns, and listening, to build confidence in their social skills.
7. Discuss Feelings Openly
It’s normal for your child to have a mix of emotions about starting big school. Encourage them to express how they feel and reassure them that it’s okay to be nervous. Share your own positive experiences of school and talk about the fun things they will do. Sometimes, simply knowing that their feelings are normal can make a big difference. The Children's School Day Processing Notepad from Abel and The Label is a must. They are a fabulous way of encourgaing your child to process their day.
8. Prepare for Practicalities
In the final weeks, ensure you have all the necessary school supplies and uniform ready. Involve your child in this process by letting them help choose their supplies or try on their uniform. Label their belongings together and practise packing their school bag. This helps them feel more prepared and gives them a sense of ownership over the transition.
9. Plan a Positive First Day
Plan something special for the first day of school to make it a memorable and positive experience. This could be a favourite breakfast, a family photo in their new uniform, or a small treat waiting for them after school. Having something to look forward to can help ease first-day jitters. Leave them little notes in their lunch box or give them something small of yours to keep in their school bag.
10. Stay Positive
Finally, your attitude towards the transition will greatly influence your child’s perception of it. Stay positive and enthusiastic about the move to big school. If you show excitement and confidence, your child is more likely to mirror these emotions.
The move from pre-school to big school is a big step, but with careful preparation, you can help your child navigate this transition with confidence. By establishing routines, practising independence, and fostering open communication, you’re setting your child up for a successful and enjoyable start to their school journey. Remember, every child is different, so be patient and supportive as they adjust to this new chapter in their life.
Gemma x
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